Major Key Alert: Unlearn your HUSTLE Mentality.

I would start getting ready for work at 5:30 am. 
Leave the house by 6:30 am.
Commute for 50 minutes and attempt to connect with those most important to me via phone.
Pre-record my radio show just in time to arrive at work by 8:30 am -- considering all things flowed seamlessly.
Work until 5:00 pm. 
Head back to the radio station to serve as 1/3 of the evening show.
Get off at 10:00 pm.
Commute back home. 
Arrive no later than 11:00 pm.
Eat, know the rest.

With little to no energy for myself, at least all of my other responsibilities were fulfilled, right? 

WRONG!  I was overworked, underpaid, and nowhere near fulfilled. Something had to give.

So, I decided to practice what I preach:  Love Yourself More by putting yourself first.  Let me say it louder for the people in the back, “Putting yourself first is non-negotiable.” 

At first, it felt selfish, those who were accustomed to getting ALL of me did not agree with my newfound boundaries.  Hell, it was unfamiliar ground for me, too.  But little by little, my self-focus created more space for me to do the things I truly loved. To be more present for me.  Clear the clutter and perform more optimally.

I'm a "hustlHER" by nature, so all work with some play was my lifestyle because...

At an early age, women are taught to nurture, serve, and cater to others, which is why the whole notion of loving yourself more sounds foreign to many of us.

Just last summer, Michelle Obama confronted the “many” of us who need to put ourselves first. She stated that we need to have a conversation to unlearn the histories associated with women doing it all to ensure the happiness of others while simultaneously neglecting her own.

"Many of us, we have a hard time putting ourselves on our own priority list, let alone at the top of it," – Michelle Obama

Furthermore, a 2015 study by, indicated that women will take care of their pets’ health before their own.

Sis, it’s past time love yourself more.  Then feel free to go love on “Fido.”

Stop feeling guilty for taking a break. 

Use the PTO day. Close the bathroom door to gain solitude. Eat the candy bar.   Splurge on the spa day. 

Do whatever is necessary to ensure that your best self is ready and available for you.

You can’t pour from an empty cup, so do more to fill you up on the inside.  That way you can not only love yourself more but others as well.

Then watch your best life unfold.

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